Advertisement Express and accept your feelings. The only way through grief is to feel it, not deny it. Tears, loneliness, sadness — and even depression — are natural reactions to the loss of a loved one. If you find you’re able to enjoy some holiday festivities, try not to feel as though you’re somehow betraying your loved one. Accept yourself wherever you’re at. Share your feelings with people who understand.
Plan ahead. Decide what you can handle comfortably, and let your needs be known to family and friends. Do you want to talk about your loved one at gatherings? Can you handle preparing the holiday dinner as you have in previous years, or do you want someone to take over some responsibilities?
Don’t be afraid to make changes. You might find that some holiday traditions are too emotionally painful this year. Consider making new traditions. Lower your expectations for the holidays.
Raise the memory. Include your loved one’s name in conversation, and share your memories. Hang a stocking, light a candle or select an ornament in your loved one’s memory.
Sources: Gundersen Lutheran Medical Center Bereavement Services and Mayo Clinic Hospice Program
